SWS and How it Affects Our Relationships/Working With Your Spouse

[SueP]

I consider myself a very soulful lady/agent who prides herself in treating my clients with respect etc.  I have remarried and have found that even with as soulful as I am...my husband does not quite understand this way of business.  In fact our marriage has been in jeopardy several times, but we always manage to get back together.  In the beginning of our marriage we decided to bring him the business.  We did in fact do quite well, but we also found out that being together 24 hours a day may not be what is intended for us!

I would love to hear how other SWS Agents have handled this!

[Jennifer Allan]

Me, too!

I wrote a blog on the subject of spouses not really getting the SWS-way... I'll see if I can dig it up. I know that's not really what you're asking, but it might be helpful... or not...

[TxFred]

Hi Sue,

If I read this right there are actually two different issues - you and your husband work together AND he doesn't really buy into the SWS way.

I worked with my wife for a short time in a different industry and we discovered that really wasn't such a good idea, the 24/7 really isn't for us and may not be for you. However, we do plan on her someday becoming a stager and working out of the same office I use, at least initially. If we discover that arrangement is still too close for our marriage, one of us will change where we hang our shingle. There is nothing 'wrong' with needing/wanting to have some place where you are totally separate from your other half.

The issue of him not buying into SWS is compounded by working together. If you are working as a fully integrated team and one of you is more comfortable with traditional sales methods while the other is trying to work a more soulful track, it can confuse (and cost you) clients because they aren't sure what the team identity is. Surprisingly, there are people out there that want a more traditional hard-sell agent and if you work separately, it may be an advantage - you can refer those people to your hubby and he can let you walk with those looking for our path without your household losing out.

 I hope this helps while Jennifer is looking for her blog on the subject.

[Jennifer Allan]

Thanks for the nudge - here's the blog - it's not 100% on topic, but... it might be helpful!

http://activerain.com/blogsview/1080364/-mismatched-spouses-introverts-extroverts